Trust Issues

"Love shatters when 

there is no trust"

Do you agree with me? Without trust, even the strongest relationship will fail. Building trust takes time, and when it does, there's no guarantee that it's gonna stay that way forever. We have to constantly nurture it. Undeniably, some people just have a hard time trusting people. Thus, always having to justify our actions and constantly being questioned can be tiring and frustrating at times. Here are some tips on how to build trust in relationships.

First, STOP BEING SELFISH. Focusing only on your needs will cause the relationship to stagnate. Discuss about what's best for the both of you. Empathize - think of how you might feel if you're in their shoes. So stop fussing over your jealousy or insecurity, or you'll end up feeling more miserable. 

Next, you need to LISTEN. Sometimes truth hurts, but avoiding it only makes it worse. Things happen for a reason, so it's not fair to continually blame your partner for what happened. Don't make assumptions even if you don't agree with his or her action. Learn to understand and explore all the possibilities before jumping to conclusions.

Also, BE HONEST. Start speaking the truth about your needs and expectations. Let them be known and don't hide it inside. Release your frustrations and then, that's it. By putting less time on the negative side, you'll be happier.

Lastly, BE SPECIFIC. Focus on the now and don't compare it with past experiences. Thinking of what happened before will divert you from your current problem/issue and will further inhibit trust. Sometimes we just need to let go! Don't let the past rule your thoughts and judgement.. the past is past.

All in all, we can see that effective communication is the key in building trust and sustaining relationships. I know that it's easier said than done, but work it out together. After all it takes two to tango righttt? ;)